Is my husband hiding behind me (not physicaly) for his true uality?

I opened a text message on my husbands phone which read "dissapointed we didn't meet in the toilets at work today. JOE!!!! I am so shocked and ashamed to think he has lied the whole eleven years I have known him. Our life has never been great, but I felt it was always myself that had to encourage him for , and even then was a five minute wonder, but I kept on trying but to no avail, now in the end, through pressures of running our own business and financial worries we have decided to sell up and divorce. I now look back and trying to find other clues of his uality. A first impression of him you would think he was very masculine, stocky built but short all into rugby, thinks football is for *****, but now I look at him and I see another side to him, he's a fanatic about tidying up,whether hoovering, washing up cleaning etc. You very rarely hear him talk like men do together when they see a nice looking women, he likes Boy George music. I physically feel sick!